Finding Balance After the First Weeks
The first few weeks of school are behind us, and if you’re the parent of an autistic child, you’ve probably already experienced both the joys and the challenges of a new school year. Transitioning from the freedom of summer into the structure of school routines isn’t easy for anyone, but for our children, it can bring on extra layers of stress, worry, or even meltdowns. If your family has felt the strain, know that you’re not alone—and that there are practical steps you can take right now to ease the transition.
One of the most important things to remember is that adjustment takes time. Just as it took weeks to settle into summer routines, it will take weeks for your child to fully settle into school. The key is consistency. Stick to your routines, even when it’s hard. Visual schedules—posted in the kitchen, on the fridge, or in your child’s room—remain powerful tools to help your child understand what’s happening next. If you used a visual schedule to prepare for school, don’t put it away now; keep updating it for school days and evenings.
Another tool that continues to pay off is communication. Keep talking to your child’s teacher, even after the IEP meeting or the “back to school” open house. A short email check-in once a week can prevent small issues from becoming big ones. Teachers appreciate being kept in the loop, and this also helps your child feel supported from every direction. Remember, you are your child’s best advocate.
It’s also important to focus on sensory regulation. For many autistic children, the school environment is loud, crowded, and unpredictable. If your child is coming home exhausted or dysregulated, build in downtime after school. Some children may need 30 minutes of quiet play, while others may benefit from physical activity outside before starting homework or chores. Follow your child’s lead and give them space to recover from the demands of the school day.
At home, small changes can make mornings and evenings less stressful. Lying out clothes and packing the backpack the night before may sound simple, but it reduces stress in those high-pressure morning minutes. At night, maintain predictable and calming bedtime routines: a warm bath, a favorite story, soft music, or dimmed lights. These cues help signal to your child that it’s time to wind down.
And don’t forget to celebrate successes! Whether it’s a smooth morning routine, a positive report from school, or just making it through a tough week, take the time to acknowledge progress. Stickers, a favorite breakfast, or even extra time with a special toy can serve as powerful reinforcements. But your encouragement and recognition mean the most—your child needs to know you see their effort.
As we move deeper into the school year, know that our team is here to support you. We are catching up on Information & Referral calls, so please email us at info@autismmv.org if you need specific resources or support. We wish all of our families a smooth and successful school year ahead!
By Robin Suzelis, Director of Information and Referral, Autism Society of Mahoning Valley